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The Map Out of Any Valley Reading time: 5 minutes | Part 2 of 2 – Read Part 1: The Truth About Peaks and Valleys Last week, I told
What I Learned at 30,000 Feet My kids had a few days off school 2 weeks ago, so we made the most of it and
Lessons on Change, Fear, and Finding New Opportunities On recognizing when you’re clinging to icky cheese and why the courage to move on might be
Back from a little hiatus because I’ve been doing some change-ups. And here’s a behind the scenes look: I love trying new things. And I
Beach Day Wisdom: When “Not Brave Enough” Really Means “This Just Might Not Be My Thing” My Beach day with the kids and boogie
From Powerless to Purposeful: My Advocacy Journey Think about a time when you felt truly powerful – not in dominating others, but in creating positive
Here’s my food for thought this week. I’ve been thinking a lot about power. Who has it… how we get it… how to use it…
Last week, my sister and I did a podcast on Thought Ladders and Body Image. Check it out here if you’d like. Here’s the
Hey there! The last two weeks, I touched on the exhaustion of most working moms and the Unapologetic No. While these two things are intimately linked in
Hey there! OK, I got off a coaching call last week and we ended with giving a shout-out to a husband of a group member.
The Wake-Up Call in the Check-Out Line: Two weeks ago, I witnessed something that stopped me in my tracks. I was standing in line
Celebrating Failure: What the Skate Park Taught Me About Time Freedom I took my kids and our neighbor to a new skate park our city recently
How to Trust Your Inner Voice In our fast-paced world of competing demands and endless opinions, sometimes the hardest voice to hear is your own.
What a Horse Taught Me About Saying No In our fast-paced world of endless demands, sometimes it takes an unexpected moment to reconnect with our
Break Free from Silence and Shame The past few weeks, I’ve been startled awake by my kids at ungodly hours thanks to daylight savings time,
Last Saturday, after hopping on the peloton for a quick ride, I was quickly packing for our family spring break trip to South Florida while
I witnessed something recently that might sound familiar… A professional woman—pregnant and juggling a demanding medical career—received a text from her partner. Despite working ten
The Final Step to Time Freedom You’ve Been Missing: Navigate & Create Sustainable Success Do you feel like you’re constantly racing against time without making real
Your Guide to Crafting an Ideal Week Let’s talk about time – specifically, how to make it work for you instead of feeling like it’s always working
Creating Your Aligned Life From LEARN to INTEGRATE – Creating Your True Yes Framework This week I want to share some of my favorite time
Understanding Your Personal Energy Code “Being time poor makes us more depressed, more stressed, and more emotionally exhausted.” – Cassie Holmes, PhD Happier Hour Last
The 3-Day Time Audit Imagine knowing exactly where your time goes – and more importantly, how it makes you feel. That’s the power of a purposeful
Why You Need a Time Audit Now From Audit to Action: Creating Lasting Change Last week we explored getting clear on what you want. Why? Because
Last week, I introduced The ALIGN Method. Before we begin our ALIGNed journey together – before we Audit your calendar or Learn your energy code – I want
Setting the Course for 2025 Have you ever rolled your eyes at the idea of choosing “words for the year”? I’ll admit, sometimes it seems
Picture this: You’re at a family gathering or holiday work party, wanting to leave early because you’re exhausted, but instead of asking, you sit there
I wrote this last week to my email list… maybe a few days late in posting here– but hey, it’s the holidays so I’m sneaking
I was talking to my sister recently about the holiday overwhelm when something struck me: we working moms are carrying an Olympic-level mental load at
Last week, we explored Michael Gervais’ powerful message from ‘The First Rule of Mastery’: Stop Worrying About What People Think of You. Gervais argues
A Lesson from Learning to Ride Bikes My daughter was recently careening down a hill on her bike. She loves this one particular street because
I recently mentioned the “madwoman in the attic” a reference from the book Burnout taken from a metaphor from Jane Eyre. See the Grow Mighty
Final email on Burnout (the book, not the topic because I have come to accept it will always be a part of the coaching I do).
In the wake of the recent election, perhaps this final part of the book (Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski, PhD
Well, I wrote this to my mailing list on Election Day here in the U.S. Even at the time, it I recognized it was both
Maybe you are clear on what Burnout is… and how it feels. So now what can you DO about it? (If you missed last week,
Burnout has been such a hot topic (especially in the medical world)! In some ways, the term reminds me of the old adage, “You’ll know
As you slide into last quarter of the year… do you ever feel like you are sliding backwards? Not in a fun, adventurous going down
I just finished the audio book: The Self-Driven Child by William Stixrud Ph.D. and Ned Johnson and I wanted to share a part where they talk about what
Just a quick note from me this week. My husband and I flew out to Denver to check out Estes Park and the Rocky Mountain
With everything that’s going on in the past week: hurricane devastation across many states, ongoing wars abroad, election uncertainty– this seems both an important reminder
My sister wrote a great email last week to her clients. She’s a personal stylist. Find her here if you are looking for inspiration: https://www.hannaleestyle.com/ ???????? She
Have you ever thought about what you could take away that might increase your happiness? From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose
Last week, we talked about asking for help and some of the universal challenges in that. I talked about looking at your thoughts around asking for help
If you’ve been here awhile, you’ve heard me talk about the Coaching Model/ framework I learned at the Life Coach School. Circumstances–> Thoughts–> Feelings–> Actions–>
I feel a renewed sense of hope brewing. Can you? Maybe it’s because school restarted, we’ve had an occasional “cool” morning (at least our
It’s back to school week, at least for many of us down here in Florida, home to the wild yet beloved #FloridaMan and wild but not so
Audiobooks really are my jam. Just a plug for Libby/ Hoopla which are free resources for audiobooks. Here have been some of my favorites this
Last week, I walked you through my recap of a section from Take Back Your Brain by Kara Loewentheil: “Why We Seek External Validation.” This week I wanted
“Why We Seek External Validation” comes from Chapter 6 Take Back Your Self-Esteem in Take Back Your Brain by Kara Loewentheil. This was a helpful framework that I simmered
Last week we looked at Dreaded Feedback. I mentioned the book Thanks For The Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well By Douglas Stone
Ok so maybe you’ve been reading my emails or posts for the past few weeks; perhaps you’ve been trying out how empowering NO can be?
Do you worry about how saying no to your boss, clients, or family might be interpreted? Worried they might be disappointed? Angry? Horrified? Frustrated? I hear
Want to know the exception I mentioned last week? In the category: I want to say YES, but I say no… I called it the inauthentic
Introducing the Incoming Request Audit (IRA), a tool to analyze our responses to requests. Authentic “yes” and “no” responses come from feeling confident and empowered, while inauthentic responses stem from anxiety and self-doubt. Shifting our thoughts can change our responses, empowering us to trust ourselves and say “no” when needed.
It’s a skill that can be learned. Ask me how I know ????????I just want to be clear— this is something that did NOT
Let’s be real – as women (especially working moms), we’re constantly juggling demands on our time and energy from work, family, friends, and more.
This one is dedicated to all my favorite people pleasers. I hear you. I see you. I invite you to a little reframe about
Picture this: Another ‘request’ is added to your pile. Your boss wants you to do something new. Another sports event or birthday party or
Do you ever get stuck in a ruminative loop? Check out this story from Zen Shorts by Jon J Muth which illustrates the impact of carrying negative experiences. Also, employ a coaching model to analyze thoughts and feelings (with some helpful clarification by Brené Brown on disappointment, regret, discouragement, resignation, and frustration). Use some self-compassion and learn from experiences to break the ruminative cycle.
The concept of “window of tolerance” and how it affects our ability to function and regulate emotions is directly tied to limits, boundaries and growth. The importance of recognizing and respecting internal and external limits and boundaries combined with the need for recovery and self-care after pushing one’s limits is what ensures growth.
The Life Coach School has a process called Monday Hour One. A book I’m finishing (Widen the Window by Elizabeth Stanley, PhD) has a section about Planning 2.0. There
I recently saw a post on Linkedin by Reshma Saujani; she is the founder and CEO of Moms First and of Girls who Code. I read her book Brave
The post discusses insights from the book “The Disease to Please,” emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say no. There are many versions of NO: polite, humorous, and snarky ways. The key message is to prioritize self-care and reclaim time by confidently saying no when necessary.
My recent reads include “90 Seconds to a Life You Love,” “The Disease to Please,” “Dopamine Nation,” and “The Good Enough Job.” The last, by Simone Stolzoff, explores the concept of “good enough” work, urging a balance between meaningful work and self-identity. The book’s insights triggered a realization about detaching self-worth from work and embracing diverse roles in life.
During a conversation with clients, we explored pain and suffering, considering the equation “Suffering = Pain x Resistance.” The idea of “Heart Work = Pain X Purpose” emerged, emphasizing the importance of allowing difficult emotions and finding purpose in pain. The key is to choose awareness over resistance and seek the purpose in challenging experiences.
In “90 Seconds to a Life You Love,” Joan Rosenberg, PhD, discusses embracing uncomfortable emotions to build confidence and authenticity. By allowing and tolerating these feelings for 90 seconds, one can move past them and cultivate confidence, resilience, and authenticity.
Through coaching, individuals can develop awareness, recognize their thoughts, and embrace an empowering identity. Confidence in facing discomfort unlocks limitless potential.
A nod to The Buddha and The Badass which suggests shifting internal conversations by asking lofty questions instead of using affirmations. Lofty questions prompt the brain to gather evidence, leading to true belief. Asking questions can shift the brain to find unconsidered evidence, transforming beliefs and identity.
I listened to a podcast a long time ago with Brené Brown and Simon Sinek on Developing an Infinite Mindset , and it may have been in
Perhaps generosity isn’t generous if you are always giving at the expense of yourself. Lack of personal time for working moms often leads to frustration, resentment, and overwhelm. Reclaiming time involves a calendar audit, identifying personal desires, and building an intentional schedule. I think it’s vital for both happiness and satisfaction.
Last week, I talked about the internal voice of “not enough” and whatever version that might be for you. This week, I wanted to address another
It seems a few decades ago, women were sold a narrative: you can have it all! It opened the door to work outside of the
In celebration of Valentine’s Day this week, I hope you were able to spend some time with the ones you love and cherish them, I
A quick nod to last week if you missed it.* Sometimes it’s helpful to look at what’s at stake. This is what I’m going to
(Clarification: I sent this out in my newsletter on Wednesday, hence the Hump Day reference– I’m leaving it in for your enjoyment. And if
Are you wanting to change something but it seems heavy, daunting, arduous, or maybe even downright scary? Or perhaps it invokes all the scarcity and ‘what
Whether you are working on a new project, new parenting phase/technique, or a New Year’s resolution, finding TIME tends to be a BIG BARRIER for
I’ve been toying with an idea for several months now. It loops me back to a lesson I learned (or thought I had!) when I was
As the holidays start to roll by, sometimes I find myself in a blur wondering where the time went… Some days, it seems like it
It’s a funny time of year to talk about gratitude as a YES BUT….. I want more. For context, I was listening to a podcast: Hello
I’m thankful for an amazing Thanksgiving. Hoping you enjoyed the fruits of your labors or someone else’s! Cooking is truly one of my joys; I was grateful
It sounds like the start of a bad joke, but what do Toyota, a 5 year old, and your coach all have in common? The
In a world filled with distractions and endless to-do lists, sometimes focusing on one thing can create a cascade of progress. In the book “The One
The Sacrificial Mother: Escaping the Trap of Self-Denial by Carin Rubenstein PhD Ok I’m going to dive in a little more this week. There are a
A few weeks ago I finished two books: The Sacrificial Mother by Carin Rubenstein PhD and Satisfaction by Gregory Berns MD, PhD. Both had really
For all the healthy skeptics out there, there’s now published research in JAMA, in fact a Randomized Clinical Trial demonstrating statistically significant reduction in emotional exhaustion and impostor
I’m taking a few extra minutes today to let you know something really important and central to my work as a coach. YOU MATTER. I’ve
(Not to be confused with selfish.) “Be a selfist. The psychologist Carin Rubenstein writes about how quickly she fell into the modern trap of denying herself
Near the end of Happier Hour (by Dr Cassie Holmes, PhD) there’s an exercise she uses with her students (she teaches MBA students at UCLA). It
WHY NOW IS THE RIGHT TIME. Perhaps you feel overwhelmed right now. I know you are juggling a million balls. Whether it’s at work, with
I was listening to a new audiobook: Michael Hyatt’s Free to Focus and I wanted to highlight one concept because it pertains to my upcoming course.
I’m really excited for my new program launching October 1st. If you are a working mom feeling overworked and overwhelmed trying to juggle your family and
Have you ever had a moment and realized that something happened “just on time”? I wanted to share a recent “just on time” story;
The goal of coaching is not to eliminate all the negative emotions in our lives, but rather to be able to process them (and not add
Switching gears a little this week because I have a project up my sleeve I can’t wait to share. AND: it’s not just for doctors…
“Any belonging that asks us to betray ourselves is not true belonging.” ~ Brené Brown The need for connection and belonging are core human needs.
Sharing another one of my favorites: Steering by Starlight By Martha Beck (the OG Life Coach) I love chapter 2: Wizard versus Lizard: The Battle for
There’s a phenomenal TedX talk with Dr Joan Rosenberg; it’s about being with unpleasant feelings. It falls in line with many of the coaching topics we
“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection
The Manual: The last two weeks, I talked about the manual or the “instruction guide” we have for someone in our lives about how we would
I’m going to flip last week’s concept into something I’ve been thinking more about: do you have a ‘manual’ for yourself? What’s in the instruction
Hope everyone had a safe and joy-filled 4th of July! Holidays are often great reminders why coaching can be so helpful… Hoping this can help
“Clear Is Kind. Unclear Is Unkind.” ~Brené Brown’s Dare to Lead Quick and to the point this week. I love this article and her words resonate
In the last two weeks I put together info from a few of my favorite sources on boundaries. It’s a great place to start if
Last week, we talked about boundaries and I wanted to share some of my favorite highlights from a book I read some time ago but
The Life Coach School defines boundaries as something you create for yourself and “includes a request you make of someone to change a certain behavior
Wait a minute. “That’s bogus” my brain told me, and there may have been an additional eye role, expletive, and small tantrum: No way. I’m
“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” ~Annie Dillard There’s a story that circulates quite frequently; I can’t remember
So last week, we talked about building a ladder. I wasn’t ready to share then, perhaps because I hadn’t quite built the ladder yet… and I was stuck on
So you may have a new thought you are working on believing but aren’t quite there yet. That’s normal! If you already believed it, this
Make a list of new thoughts you want to practice thinking every day. Bonus: record them and listen to them regularly. Want to borrow some
Adding to my belief that coaching can help transform lives– I’m opening a new small group session starting in May: Wednesdays @ 5pm EST/ 2PM
So, the last few weeks we spent time looking at our pasts and looking at ways we can “rewrite” them. All of this helps look
So last week I took a mini detour to Byron Katie’s “The Work”… It was intentional. I think questioning “is it true” can be super
Last week recap: We talked about how questioning your past beliefs can be incredibly useful. From there, you get to decide: What’s the story you want to
Last week recap: We talked about how you can’t change the past, but you can change the impact it has on you now. What’s the story
What’s in is your past? Do you want more of that in your future? What if you viewed your past as a neutral circumstance? All you
We all get stuck in the past. Our brain loops back to old failures (or successes) and projects that on the future. It’s a predictive
What do you desire? What is one thing you’ve been yearning to do? To have? To be? Or maybe it’s the one thing you want
I promise to keep it shorter this week. Unintentional results (especially the negative results) are the things we have in our life that we think
Last week, I mentioned when our actions are generated from authenticity: magic happens! When there is alignment: with goals, values and being true to yourself on
Last week, we touched on feelings. This week, it’s a quick jump to actions: Circumstances–> Thoughts–> Feelings–> Actions–> Results It’s clear to see the linear
What are you feeling? It’s kind of funny to be posting this on Super Bowl Sunday. It’s a day filled with all kinds of ‘feels’: maybe
“So why don’t more people work on their overthinking? Because everyone has too many thoughts and don’t know where to start.” Soundtracks by Jon Acuff
There’s a statistic out there: we have approximately 60,000 thoughts a day. Many of these thoughts are habitual. Many are un- or sub-conscious. Some of
For most humans, we like agency over our own lives. It’s the control over our own destiny. But then life sometimes seems to happen to
EMOTIONAL AGILITY: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life By Susan David, PhD. Susan David is great and I’ve loved reading a
As the New Year brings forward so many resolutions and promises, I wanted to share a bit more from the book Lighter by Yung Pueblo. “One of
As 2022 came to an end, I wanted to express some gratitude. I’m keeping it short as I just finished a streak of overnight shifts over
About six months ago, I signed up for a thing I never thought I’d be able to do. I’m not sure if I questioned
I’ve gotten this question more in the past two weeks than ever before. The answer: no way! I work with people… With people brains:) Chimps,
We can roll our eyes about what a luxury self-care could be… but what if we view it from the lens of taking care of ourselves
As we near the end of 2022, I am reflecting on where I have been the last few years and where I am going. I
I read this book about a year ago and I wanted to share something I learned. Credit to https://www.thethreeyearexperiment.com/magic-balance/ for the image below. Tal Ben-Shahar described
“Not today brain” I have a great story about my 3-year-old. He loves treats and he loves to ask for them. I think we have done an
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