So, the last few weeks we spent time looking at our pasts and looking at ways we can “rewrite” them. All of this helps look at our beliefs, especially our beliefs about us and what we believe about our lives.
This applies to our beliefs about the past but also imposes beliefs about 
what’s possible for us in the future.
Remember, beliefs are simply thoughts we tell ourselves over and over, and often accept as simply the truth.
I had an awesome coaching session with an amazing client last week where the belief “being selfish is bad” surfaced. We got to really dig in on that and start to question: is that true? And also, how does that belief impact her now. What’s the result of thinking that thought?
So you can see based on the past few weeks of reflection, what we currently believe is often based on thoughts from past events. And it’s often not the event itself that shapes us but our thoughts/beliefs about what those events mean. Event= circumstance in our model.
(Circumstance–> Thought–>Feeling–>Actions–> Results)
Learn to become the observer of those thoughts.
| There’s a great coaching exercise I want to offer you next: What do you believe about your life? What do you believe about yourself? What are the lessons your parents taught you? What do you believe about your dreams coming true? What do you believe about your ability to create what you want? Why do you have your current results in your life? |
Tying back to the last few weeks. You might be thinking: why the childhood stuff? That all seems very retrospective when coaching is supposed to be future based, right?
The truth is, many of our beliefs systems were formed when we were small children, when we often didn’t have the emotional maturity, experience, or knowledge to understand why things happened to us. It’s helpful to be able to reflect and evaluate old beliefs with an adult lens and reflect on our thoughts about circumstances that happened years ago. It’s often now much easier to see that many circumstances had nothing to do with us. And the thoughts we had simply were from the lens of that younger self. But are they true?
Why does it matter? Because anything we want to change in our lives must be changed at the belief level if we want it to happen. I hope you can give yourself a few minutes for reflection and look at some of your current beliefs with the questions above. Next week, we get to move to the future!
