It seems a few decades ago, women were sold a narrative: you can have it all!
It opened the door to work outside of the home and normalized working moms.
There’s a lot of history here and we’ll leave that for another day.
I’ll be the first to say that I’m grateful to all the women who paved the path for it to happen. I certainly think we have plenty to offer the world in the workplace.
(**FYI I’m linking 2 interesting studies looking at female vs male physicians and patient outcomes at the bottom if interested.)
But there is an undertone: If you want it, you can have it: Great Job. Happy Kids. Marriage. Money… with the caveat many of us hear: If you’re good enough, you can have it all.
So when you don’t or it’s not how you envisioned it, it’s easy to internalize that and make that MEAN SOMETHING ABOUT US.
I’m not good enough. I’m not worthy enough. I don’t deserve it. There’s a 100 renditions that could play out in our minds every day if we allow it. But the scary part, we often believe that internal narrative as if it’s the TRUTH.
So we strive… to be good enough. To be worthy. To be all the things for all the people. And damn, that’s exhausting.
And what gets left behind?
Time and You.
I firmly believe that narrative needs to change, and I’m here to support you in that change. I think there’s external support we need and can continue to advocate for. And there’s internal support, too.
You can choose the internal conversation: aka I’m not good enough can be changed to holy shit, I’m pretty awesome or any rendition of your choosing 😉
With a little bit of coaching and practice, habits CAN change.
That little voice inside CAN change.
AND that gives us tremendous power, especially over how we talk to ourselves and over where our time goes.
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**Here are the two recent studies I mentioned before on the impact of Female vs Male physician and clinical outcomes:
1. Surgeon Sex and Long-Term Postoperative Out- comes Among Patients Undergoing Common Surgeries
The findings of this study suggest that patients treated by female surgeons have a lower risk-adjusted likelihood of adverse postoperative outcomes at 90 days and 1 year following surgery.
“After accounting for patient, procedure, surgeon, anesthesiologist, and hospital characteristics, the findings of this cohort study suggest that patients treated by female surgeons have lower rates of adverse postoperative outcomes including death at 90 days and 1 year after surgery compared with those treated by male surgeons. These findings further support differences in patient outcomes based on physician sex that warrant deeper study regarding underlying causes and potential solutions.”
2. This is a JAMA article:
Elderly hospitalized patients treated by female internists have lower mortality and readmissions compared with those cared for by male internists. These findings suggest that the differences in practice patterns between male and female physicians, as suggested in previous studies, may have important clinical implications for patient outcomes.
