Want to know the exception I mentioned last week?
In the category: I want to say YES, but I say no… I called it the inauthentic no category. There’s an obvious exception.
Let’s look at this scenario:
I want to say yes, but I am prioritizing the many other things I’m managing: my health, my family, my work, etc…
I say no from a deeply thought-out, checked-in space.
I know what I want and need and although the incoming request sounds meaningful/ interesting/fun/lovely— now just isn’t the time.
So it’s a no. And it’s authentic.
This is a powerful no that we all have to make at times.
You could argue that even if I initially want to say yes, after thinking and prioritizing, I want to say no so this ends up being slid up to the no/no category and is an ‘authentic no’… but I just wanted to point this one out. Because this isn’t being driven by self-doubt, fear, self-criticism, insecurity, and/or incompetence.
This one is being driven from solid ground, from recognizing that there is a time and place in life for all things but not all things can happen in one place and at the same time. It’s coming from an empowered, confident, focused place.
Cheers to the juggler with too many balls in the air; perhaps it’s the right time to set something down?? Come find out how. Schedule a call.
Heidi
P.S. It may be an authentic no, but it sometimes feels really hard. I have noticed if I am able to zoom out for some perspective, it makes it much easier…. rather than coming from the “I just can’t” mentality, it comes from a “not right now.”
