Do you hate disappointing people?
Do you worry about how saying no to your boss, clients, or family might be interpreted? Worried they might be disappointed? Angry? Horrified? Frustrated? I hear
Do you worry about how saying no to your boss, clients, or family might be interpreted? Worried they might be disappointed? Angry? Horrified? Frustrated? I hear
Want to know the exception I mentioned last week? In the category: I want to say YES, but I say no… I called it the inauthentic
Introducing the Incoming Request Audit (IRA), a tool to analyze our responses to requests. Authentic “yes” and “no” responses come from feeling confident and empowered, while inauthentic responses stem from anxiety and self-doubt. Shifting our thoughts can change our responses, empowering us to trust ourselves and say “no” when needed.
This one is dedicated to all my favorite people pleasers. I hear you. I see you. I invite you to a little reframe about
Do you ever get stuck in a ruminative loop? Check out this story from Zen Shorts by Jon J Muth which illustrates the impact of carrying negative experiences. Also, employ a coaching model to analyze thoughts and feelings (with some helpful clarification by Brené Brown on disappointment, regret, discouragement, resignation, and frustration). Use some self-compassion and learn from experiences to break the ruminative cycle.
The concept of “window of tolerance” and how it affects our ability to function and regulate emotions is directly tied to limits, boundaries and growth. The importance of recognizing and respecting internal and external limits and boundaries combined with the need for recovery and self-care after pushing one’s limits is what ensures growth.
The post discusses insights from the book “The Disease to Please,” emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say no. There are many versions of NO: polite, humorous, and snarky ways. The key message is to prioritize self-care and reclaim time by confidently saying no when necessary.
My recent reads include “90 Seconds to a Life You Love,” “The Disease to Please,” “Dopamine Nation,” and “The Good Enough Job.” The last, by Simone Stolzoff, explores the concept of “good enough” work, urging a balance between meaningful work and self-identity. The book’s insights triggered a realization about detaching self-worth from work and embracing diverse roles in life.
During a conversation with clients, we explored pain and suffering, considering the equation “Suffering = Pain x Resistance.” The idea of “Heart Work = Pain X Purpose” emerged, emphasizing the importance of allowing difficult emotions and finding purpose in pain. The key is to choose awareness over resistance and seek the purpose in challenging experiences.
In “90 Seconds to a Life You Love,” Joan Rosenberg, PhD, discusses embracing uncomfortable emotions to build confidence and authenticity. By allowing and tolerating these feelings for 90 seconds, one can move past them and cultivate confidence, resilience, and authenticity.
Through coaching, individuals can develop awareness, recognize their thoughts, and embrace an empowering identity. Confidence in facing discomfort unlocks limitless potential.
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