Why We Seek External Validation
“Why We Seek External Validation” comes from Chapter 6 Take Back Your Self-Esteem in Take Back Your Brain by Kara Loewentheil. This was a helpful framework that I simmered
“Why We Seek External Validation” comes from Chapter 6 Take Back Your Self-Esteem in Take Back Your Brain by Kara Loewentheil. This was a helpful framework that I simmered
Last week we looked at Dreaded Feedback. I mentioned the book Thanks For The Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well By Douglas Stone
Want to know the exception I mentioned last week? In the category: I want to say YES, but I say no… I called it the inauthentic
Introducing the Incoming Request Audit (IRA), a tool to analyze our responses to requests. Authentic “yes” and “no” responses come from feeling confident and empowered, while inauthentic responses stem from anxiety and self-doubt. Shifting our thoughts can change our responses, empowering us to trust ourselves and say “no” when needed.
It’s a skill that can be learned. Ask me how I know ????????I just want to be clear— this is something that did NOT
Let’s be real – as women (especially working moms), we’re constantly juggling demands on our time and energy from work, family, friends, and more.
This one is dedicated to all my favorite people pleasers. I hear you. I see you. I invite you to a little reframe about
Picture this: Another ‘request’ is added to your pile. Your boss wants you to do something new. Another sports event or birthday party or
Do you ever get stuck in a ruminative loop? Check out this story from Zen Shorts by Jon J Muth which illustrates the impact of carrying negative experiences. Also, employ a coaching model to analyze thoughts and feelings (with some helpful clarification by Brené Brown on disappointment, regret, discouragement, resignation, and frustration). Use some self-compassion and learn from experiences to break the ruminative cycle.
The concept of “window of tolerance” and how it affects our ability to function and regulate emotions is directly tied to limits, boundaries and growth. The importance of recognizing and respecting internal and external limits and boundaries combined with the need for recovery and self-care after pushing one’s limits is what ensures growth.
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